As parents, we all want to give our children what they want. However, it’s also our job to raise them well and ensure that they aren’t spoiled by our actions. After all, giving too much can be just as bad as giving too little. And if they get used to the idea that they can get whatever they like on a whim, there’s a good chance that they’ll find it hard to appreciate anything that they receive.
The good news is that buying gifts for your kids presents a unique opportunity not only in giving them something that they will undoubtedly enjoy but also a means to help them develop too. To this end, here are a few tips that should help you get your children presents while promoting their growth at the same time.
1. Let them earn the gift
For those working with a modest budget and can ill-afford to spend too much on a pricey item, one of the most effective ways to help get your kids what they want is to let them earn it. Rewarding them from doing basic tasks like helping out with the chores around the house can go a long way not only in assisting them to buy a kids scooter or video game console that they’ve always wanted, but also to teach the value of responsibility and saving too.
2. Use the gifts as a bonding tool
Another way to help our kids grow through gifts is to use it as a bonding tool. While it may appear to be counterproductive to their enjoyment, taking the time to teach them how to ride the bicycle that you just purchased or the newest video game you bought can be as enjoyable for them as it is for you. More importantly, it will build both trust and the relationship between you and your children, making them more responsive to you as a result.
3. Choose a gift that fosters connections
Social dynamics are a big part of childhood. And while technology might make everything convenient, it can also create isolation too. And it’s not uncommon for many children to be hooked on their mobile devices like tablets for the entire day. As such, it makes sense to choose gifts that will allow them to foster connections with other children too. A board game, for example, may not sound like much in this day and age, but you’ll be surprised at how effective it can be at encouraging friendships.
Finding the right balance between providing our children with what they desire while promoting their growth is by no means an easy task. But as tricky as it might be, it’s not impossible to overcome this challenge. With these tips, not only will you elicit the fun and enjoyment that gift giving often brings for the kids, but you’ll also minimise, if not mitigate, the risks of spoiling them while instilling good values at the same time.